What Love Demands

Salaam and Greetings of Peace:

Eid Mubarak!

May Allah bless you all this Eid, dear Brothers and Sisters, with generosity of hand, sincerity of speech, kindness in action, and love and joy in remembrance of Him, who is the Source of all Generosity, Sincerity, Kindness, Joy, and Love.  Ameen!

“O Lord! Let not our hearts deviate now after You have guided us, but grant us mercy from Your own Presence; for You are the Grantor of bounties without measure.” (Quran: 3:9)

This is the time of Eid al-Adha, the Festival of Sacrifice, which celebrates the faith of Abraham, who was willing to sacrifice even his son Isaac as God had commanded. Now what are we willing to sacrifice in order that our prayers may be accepted?

That is the question I ask myself every year. Jesus (pbuh) kissed the leper, the whore, and the thief, out of love and forgiveness and healing. Because of the great expansiveness of his heart, miracles were possible. What have we done, what can we still do, to be worthy of the love and forgiveness and healing we ask of God? The answer that comes to my heart is always the same:

Do what love demands.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. -1 Corinthians 13:4-8

According to a hadith, the Prophet (pbuh) once said, “A true believer is one with whom others feel secure. One who returns love for hatred.”

Alhamdulillah! Indeed, Love is the greatest miracle of God. There have been Spiritual Masters of the past who would not let an aspirant be initiated until they had gone to everyone whom they had wronged in their life, and begged forgiveness, making amends in any way that was required. And until they had gone to everyone that had wronged them in their lives, and granted them forgiveness without asking, and with a whole heart. Only then could such a one be initiated on the mystic path.

And so we come to the great task of our lives, brought into focus on this day of Eid al-Adha: To sacrifice our fear and hatred, our envy and greed and all the other works of the fearful and self-absorbed nafs, in the certain knowledge that anyone who forgives a debt will be repaid tenfold by God, and anyone who forgives a wrong will be forgiven by God a hundredfold, and anyone who returns love for hatred will make of this life a paradise. That is what love demands.

Your task is not to seek for love,
but merely to seek and find
all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.
– Rumi

Ya Haqq!

PS:  Click HERE for another wonderful post on forgiveness.

20 Responses to What Love Demands

  1. Redwan Ahmed says:

    ma’shallah, a great article. JazakAllah

  2. Shahrzad says:

    Very very beautiful hadeeth.
    Do people believe in miracles nowadays?

  3. crimsonsilk says:

    Reading this brought me to tears – in a good way :)
    Jazakallah & Eid Mubarak (*

  4. The Prophecy says:

    I believe in miracles, because they are abundant around me!

    Thank you, dear Irving, for this message as it came at a special moment to me today. Jazak’Allah!

  5. Redwan Ahmed says:

    Shahrzad: There are lots of miracles in islam

  6. krishna.n.c says:

    Beloved Papa Irving,
    Subhanalllah :))) What a soul warming post!! Its Love and Forgiveness which paves the Path to take us all Home…to Him :)
    I am reminded of a lovely quote by Sri Yogananda ji…”God’s Love is so all-embraciing that no matter what wrongs we have done, He forgives us. If we love Him with all our hearts, He wipes out all our bad Karmas.”
    Wishing you and your loved ones a very happy Eid :)
    May Allah always keep you in His Loving Arms :)
    Hugs and endless love for you always!

  7. Irving says:

    Salaam Dear Brothers and Sisters:

    Thank you all for the kind comments :) May we all indeed forgive others, as we wish Allah to forgive us this Eid. Ameen.

    Ya Haqq!

  8. shirazi says:

    Very very long time and no see. Why? How are you? Best wishes.

  9. Saha says:

    a beautiful post and one that I really needed to read, and will continue to need to read ;)

  10. Bint-eh Adam says:


    Thank you so much for this.
    What a great reminder!
    Has been a while since reading something of this effect :-)


    Wishing you and your’s Eid Greetings and Increased Eman.

    Regards from England

  11. Barbara Simpson Eguez says:

    Eid Mubarak dear Irving, brothers and sisters in faith! In reading this lovely writing, it reminded me of something I just happened to read yesterday in the book, Sharafuddin Maneri, The Hundred Letters. In letter #70, on page 289, last chapter, there is a part I would like to share with you (if you don’t mind dearest Irving), and it goes: “There is the story of a man who was making his way around the Kaaba and praying, ‘O God, make my brothers good!’ People said” ‘You have finally reached this holy place, why do you not pray for yourself? Why are all your prayers for your brothers?’ He replied: ‘I have several brothers to whom I shall be retuning. If I find them acting virtuously, then I too will become good on account of their virture, but if I find them steeped in wickedness, then I too will become perverted by their wickedness. Since my goodness will result from associating with good people, I therefore pray for my brothers, that I might achieve my aim through their help>”

  12. Umm Bilal says:

    Assalamu alaikum Dear Irving Darvish,
    Another of your poignant messages…may we be granted the courage to do what love demands.
    Eid Mubarak to you and yours!
    Wassalamu alaikum

  13. brokenmystic says:

    Eid Mubarak, brother :) May you have a blessed one, insha’Allah.

    Thank you also for voting for my blog!

  14. Abdur Rahman says:

    Salaams Irving bhai

    Allah! Beautiful and exactly what I needed to read!

  15. Maithri says:

    Dearest Brother,

    Today as always I am moved and blessed by reading your tender and powerful words.

    My little words cannot do you justice dear Brother. There is a radiance, a grace about you which I sense deeply.

    Thank you for all the love you give,

    For your humble grace and the deep power that resides in you,

    You are a hero of love in this world,

    Blessings of peace to you and your loved ones always,


  16. Ismail Radpour says:

    Eid mubarak brother, Beautiful words!

    “All of the Sufis have their slinks in beloved,
    But Hafiz is disreputable among them!”

    Ya Haqq!

  17. Irving says:

    Salaam Dear Brothers and Sisters:

    Thank you all for the kindness and love you shown this unworthy darvish. To do what love demands often means we go against our selfish interests, our laziness, and our unwillingness to open our hearts to others. Getting past these boundaries within ourselves is indeed what Rumi’s poem meant, and on the path of Love, they are veils to the Beloved. May Allah ever increase our love and wisdom, which are in reality the same thing. Ameen.

    Ya Haqq!

  18. Rabu says:


    again I am reading this cause i love this. Thanks for sharing

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