The Wedding Ceremony

August 8, 2008

Salaam and Greetings of Peace:

Alhamdulillah! My computer is fixed :) Over the weeks of its absence I have been reading a great deal and watching nature – the many-hued birds and creatures great and small that surround us here – and generally enjoying the break.

I have also been asked to perform the ceremony at the wedding of old friends. I know, it came as a shock to me too lol. It is both a delightful and humbling task. There is a lot to think about and consider. Of course, they will be married first at City Hall to make it legal, and then there will be a spiritual ceremony and wedding celebration in the lovely garden of their home.

They follow the spiritual path of Prem Rawat, also known as Maharaji, and sent me this lovely saying of his:

“This is a metaphor, but it is true: When we come into this world we’re given seeds and the question is, what will we do with these seeds? And what are these seeds? There is the seed of anger, but there is also a seed of kindness. There is a seed of love and a seed of understanding. And there is a seed of doubt and confusion. Whatever seed you have sown in your garden of life ultimately determines the tree you’re going to sit under. How restful it will be depends on what kind of seed you have sown.

… Love dances in the heart of the one who loves . . . Nurture kindness in your life, and you will be rewarded with the gift of kindness. Sow the seed of love, and you will be rewarded with that most incredible feeling of love dancing in your heart.” – Maharaji

Part of this quote will appear in the ceremony, but I would also like your help, dear friends and readers, to add further blessings and words. Please let me know in the comments what verses of the Qu’ran and other works you think might be appropriate. It is my first wedding. :)

Ya Haqq!

The Wedding – Of Fathers and Daughters

June 12, 2008

Salaam and Greetings of Peace:

Thank you all for the kind words and prayers regarding my daughter’s recent wedding :)  I promised to write a post about it, though words failed me when trying to express the myriad emotions a father feels when walking his daughter down the aisle, and placing her hand in that of another man. Then a young reader of this blog wrote to me and asked the following:

How did it feel? The actual process of the marriage? Were you happy? Were you sad that she was leaving you? Did your heart at any given point in time feel a bit disappointed that you are no longer the only man in her life? And how does it feel now that after the marriage? Where the celebrations and congratulatory messages gradually die down and you get back to your normal life? Do you feel any difference?

To which I can only say: “All of the above.”

And yet…Alhamdulillah! She married a wonderful and kind man of whom I greatly approve and am honored to call my son-in-law. His parents are also very warm and kind and loving, so the process of marriage went smoothly as far as taking him into the family, and adding the extended family as well, so to speak. Of course the nafs want to hold on to the young girl that looked up to you and that you loved so much, but the heart, that overflowing fountain of love, wanted her to be happy more than anything else, and now, inshallah, she will be.

And it is different now, of course.  For her whole life, I knew her only as “my baby girl” and now she is another man’s wife. But a fine man, whom I came to love over the course of their engagement, so I am truly gaining another son, and not losing a daughter. This is not always the case in marriage, so I thank God that she has found a soul mate :)

Besides that, it’s time for her to begin the next part of life’s journey, and give me grandchildren, LOL. Inshallah, it will be so :)

So thank you, young brother, for inquiring. It is a blessing to set the thoughts down and makes my eyes water and my heart happy all over again :)

My wife is also very happy, of course, and recently wrote this, about loving children and letting them go, to a friend (the emphasis is mine):

You have to move yourself to Love.. You have poured love and goodness into her and that is all you can do. Sometimes the reward of these things is far down the road. I can tell you that I have loved my children during times when other parents I have known have all but turned their backs on theirs. What they do and say is not important, whether you believe that or not. What is important is how deeply and consistently they are loved. It is the place from which they center their entire lives. This is what Love of God and God’s Love for us, means. This is how we live what He intends. It is the source of everything.

Ya Haqq!

New Book Review of Master of the Jinn

June 3, 2008

Salaam and Greetings of Peace:

Alhamdulillah! I have returned from my beloved daughter’s wedding, and now she, the new bride, and her new (and really wonderful) husband are on their honeymoon :) May Allah bless them with all good in this life and the next. Ameen.

And what a delight to return and find a new review of the Sufi novel, Master of the Jinn, on Sister Marahm’s blog :) Read it by clicking HERE.

And… Sister Widad of the Islamic Writers Alliance has chosen Master of the Jinn as the topic of discussion in her book club at the Islamic Fiction Books Yahoo group.  You can join in the discussion by joining her Yahoo group at this link.

Ya Haqq!

PS: More on the wedding soon :)