“…he who is kindest towards his wife.”

Salaam and Greetings of Peace:

The Prophet (peace be unto him) said: “Amongst the most perfect of believers in faith is he who is best in character, and amongst the best of them is he who is kindest towards his wife.”

Ya Haqq!

8 Responses to “…he who is kindest towards his wife.”

  1. Nasir says:

    So, only the man who is best in character can be kindest towards his wife, meaning that he who is not best in character cannot be kindly towards his wife. Secondly, a person may be best in character but if he is not kindly to his wife, he may not be perfect of the believers. Again, a person may be kindly to his wife, but if he is not of good character, what’s the use of his being good to his wife for in order to be of the perfect believers he need to have the best of character. Otherwise too, his being kindly to his wife may be sham. O, these were just the passing thoughts in my mind when I read the above Hadith Shareef.

    This instruction was given at a time when women were considered a chattel all over the world. And, as we know, as a species they were not welcome so the infant girls were buried alive.

    Yes, speak about the emancipation of women in Islam.

  2. Irving says:

    Salaam Brother Nasir:

    Although it is true that the hadith was uttered in a time when women were considered under the care and protection of their husband, I think you might be missing the point of why the Prophet (pbuh) made the statement. Kindness toward your wife, or your mother, your daughter, sister, aunt, toward any woman related to you by marriage or blood, is incumbent on believers, and is a quality of their character, reflecting the mercy and kindness and compassion of Allah toward His creation.

    In fact, kindness toward all of Allah’s creation is the true test of character for all who follow Islam.

    And Allah knows the truth.

    Ya Haqq!

  3. Maithri says:

    Dear Brother Irving,

    Your wisdom and loving kindness never cease to astound and move me,

    May a garment of love wrap around you and your beloveds, keeping you always, always, safe.


  4. Sheikh says:

    Dear Brothers,

    Forgive me but I see the unforgiving mercilessness of the Taliban on Women and the plight of the women in Afhganistan at the hands of their Fathers, Brothers, Cousins, Neighbors all of who are Muslims to be beyond any reflection of Islamic teaching.

    This is a terrible unceasing trauma we are all guilty of.

    I pray to Allah the Almighty that we relinquish these poor people from the atrocities thay are inflicting upon each other. How we can help to educate these peoples and make a difference.

    Inshallah, Allah will show us and give us open opportunity to help.

  5. Irving says:

    Salaam Sheikh:

    You are right, of course. The Taliban tried to install a truly barbaric form of oppression and tyranny under the guise of Islam. Here is a true saying:

    “A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground. Then it is done, no matter how brave its warriors nor how strong their weapons”
    – Old Cheyenne Proverb

    That was the state in Afghanistan until the Taliban were defeated, and will the state again if they ever come back. And such thinking is not only in Afghanistan. Wherever small-minded men seek power, they must keep women illiterate, poor and as property.

    Ya Haqq!

  6. Sara Mohamed says:


    Please accept this command or advise from Prophet Muhammed as this is one of the paths to Allah. There are so many men out there who have the Quran as their guide but follow their own whims. In Ramadan, I pray that you see the Nur…..
    Ramadan Mubarak!!!!!

  7. Reine Gnade says:

    Thank you for the opportunity, Irving, to post replies here. I agree that growth in humilty is vital, because God’s heart is holy and humble.

  8. Irving says:

    I am happy to have your wise comments, friend Joseph; they add to understanding, and enrich the heart :)

    Peace and many blessings!

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