Thanks Giving and Forgiveness

Salaam and Greetings of Peace:

“Be reconciled with the one who has broken with you, pardon the one who has been unjust to you, and forgive the one who denies you.”

– A saying of the Prophet (pbuh)

How many of us live up to this blessed tradition, instead of carrying around past resentments, slights, hurts, angers, injustices, and injuries, like chains weighing down our lives, and veils over our heart. I know I have been guilty of this, may Allah forgive me. And we still find it hard to let go and forgive, even though we pray and hope and beg and plead for Allah forgiveness for ourselves.

Alhamdulillah! How great is God’s bounty that we will soon celebrate Thanksgiving in the US, and give thanks for all that He has bestowed upon us. But what thanks are accepted by Him when we are thankless to those that grieved us by not also forgiving them?

In the words of Sa’di from the Gulistan (The Rose Garden):

When you are mistreated, put up with it;
Forgiving purifies you from sin.
As you will turn to dust in the end,
Become dust before you reach that end.

Ya Haqq!

Note: This post is edited and updated from a previous one written two years ago.


11 Responses to Thanks Giving and Forgiveness

  1. Shahrzad says:

    Wow, beautiful poem by Sa’adi..
    It’s so difficult to ignore or forgive. Most of us take some parts of past with us. There are many times that i reach this point and start to realise. The i remember i am carrying some memories or angers that do not exist. In the present time, past is not real anymore..

  2. Hajar Alwi says:

    Assalamualaikum brother Irving,

    Never know which is harder. To have the courage to seek for forgiveness or the ability to forgive others and let bygones be bygones. Agreeing with Shahrzad, the past is in the past. Mistakes were made. There really isn’t any way to retract what was done. By harboring the anger, and keeping fast to the memories, it will only haunt @ hurt us in return. Look towards the future and make amends. :)

  3. musicalchef says:

    It’s easy to say we forgive, but unfortunately it’s hard to forget…

  4. ned says:

    Amen! It’s difficult to let go of resentment due to past emotional wounds, but truly seeking to do so is precisely what awakens the intelligence of the heart and brings our true soul to the forefront of our being. Forgiveness has been a major catalyst for spiritual awakening in my life.

    At the same time, I would like to mention that awakening the tenderness and sweetness of the soul doesn’t imply that you passively accept abuses that others might heap on you. There is a quietness and a humility in the soul, but there is also a *silent confidence*, one that allows you to confront the external circumstances, no matter how terrible they might be, with dignity and courage. To stand on the truth of the soul’s purpose no matter what the consequences should be our aim, and those who try to break our will to live with inner integrity must be dealt with without pity or weakness. (This is my inner spiritual warrior speaking. ;-) )

  5. Marahm says:

    The poem is beautiful, full of meaning. The first three lines have been said many times and many ways, but the last line is unique, and causes me to ponder its significance beyond the obvious meaning.

    I echo Ned’s comment. Too many people assume that forgiveness means wiping the slate clean for another round of abuse. Actually, that’s not always hard to do. The hard part is forgiveness followed by the srength and courage to resist a repetition of the destructive cycle.

  6. Ruth says:

    Have a wonderful Thanksgiving dear friend and may you and your family and friends be at peace.

  7. Zed says:

    Thank you for everything dear Irving……nice to have you back!!!

    Peace and sincere kindness to you and yours as ever.


  8. Maithri says:

    Dear Brother Irving,

    May you and your beloveds be blessed with the light and love that passeth all understanding…

    May peace fall like the dews from heaven to pave the road before you in soft light,


  9. Hafizzul Hashim says:

    The of all is to blame your self and forgive your self there is no other to be blame but one self inshaallah it will take away the pride and ego at bay…. in secret thou only for his eyes to see and hear…

  10. majnun says:

    How true, forgiving is one of the simplest things to do but amazing how sometimes we find it one of the hardest things to do.

    May Allah teach us how to forgive and how to ask for forgiveness.

  11. Dipti says:

    wonderful lessons dear brother

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