The Women in Our Lives

Salaam and Greetings of Peace:

In our Sister Suroor’s recent and lovely post about men, I commented that everything I know of love, I learned from women; my mother, my daughter, and my wife. This is absolutely true. And more, all that I comprehend of God’s love and mercy, I have learned from love; and even that small fraction of His infinite bounty has its root within my heart in the endless kindness and patience and endurance and generosity of women.

My mother was the kindest, gentlest soul I have even known. I cannot think of even one instance where she considered her own needs before that of her children. I wish I could say the same for myself. My daughter is remarkable. Smart and funny, tall and lovely, in whose company I take great delight. Every man should have such an honest critic :) And my beloved wife embodies all of those attributes, and many, many more.

So here’s to the women in our lives. May we be worthy of them.

Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are — chaff and grain together — certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

-George Eliot

Ya Haqq!


21 Responses to The Women in Our Lives

  1. Dipti says:

    Irving Bhai … What a beautiful post and the quote by George Eliot is absolutely wonderful..thanks for sharing

  2. otowi says:

    I love that quote by George Eliot!

  3. Achelois says:

    Oh, what a beautiful post! thank you for sharing

  4. Abdur Rahman says:

    Salaams Irving bhai,

    Indeed. Ya Haqq!

    Here’s a poem I wrote on this topic some time ago.


    You were there at the beginning,
    on the day I came
    into this world of strange possibilities,
    and you have been with me ever since.

    And, though you have worn many faces,
    and spoken words of meaning
    in many tongues,
    it is still your eyes I see.

    So let me speak now a word of gratitude.
    Let me take this moment
    and shape it
    into a thought of enduring thankfulness.

    Woman, I have loved you my whole life.

    Abdur Rahman

  5. Irving says:

    Salaam Dear Brothers and Sisters:

    Thank you for the kind comments :) And Abdur bhai, the poem is really lovely and oh so true. We owe so much to the women in our lives that we should thank them every day we can. Please give my respects to your wonderful wife :)

    Ya Haqq!

  6. just_wandering says:

    Dear Irving
    what u write is really so inspiring and fills the spirit with light and love… but a question arises into my mind… how is it possible that according to a hadeeth the Prophet is reported to have said that were women to lick the whole body of her husband immersed in mud she wouldn’t still be able to pay her debt to him?
    I wish peace and love to you and to every visitor of the blog

  7. pbsweeney says:

    Tora dost daram. :)

  8. almiskeenah says:

    Assalamu alaikum,
    Touching Dear Irving Darvish, May Allah Ta’ala shower all your women with His Barakah, Ameen.
    The Prophet SallAllahu alaihi wasallam once said to one of his camel drivers who was carrying some of his wives: O Anjasha ! Drive the camels slowly as they are carrying crystal vessels, SubhanAllah!
    Wassalamu alaikum

  9. Maithri says:

    Amen to this beautiful post brother,

    May we be worthy of the women in our lives,

    With love and blessings to you, Maithri

  10. krishna.n.c says:

    Respected Brother Irving,
    Alhamdullilah! What a beautiful post,straight from the depths of your heart!
    May the love between the father and the beautiful daughter and the love of the husband and his beloved wife grow fonder and deeper:-)
    May God bless your wonderful mother’s soul with lots of peace and contentment, and may she always be an inspiration for all of us.
    A warm hug and a humble salaam:-)

  11. joanne says:

    So lovely. and thank you for reminding me to remember in gratitude the wonderful women I am blessed with.

  12. Frieda says:

    Received your book today, can’t wait to read it :-)

  13. Safiyyah says:

    As Salaamu Alaikum!

    From Proverbs 31:

    Eshet chayil mi yimtza v’rachok mip’ninim michrah
    An accomplished woman, who can find? Her value is far beyond pearls.

    Batach bah lev ba’lah v’shalal lo yechsar
    Her husband’s heart relies on her and he shall lack no fortune.

    G’malathu tov v’lo ra kol y’mei chayeiha
    She does him good and not evil, all the days of her life.

    Darshah tzemer ufishtim vata’as b’chefetz kapeiha
    She seeks wool and flax, and works with her hands willingly.

    Haitah ko’oniyot socher mimerchak tavi lachmah
    She is like the merchant ships, she brings her bread from afar.

    Vatakom b’od lailah vatiten teref l’vetah v’chok l’na’aroteiha
    She arises while it is still night, and gives food to her household and a portion to her maidservants.

    Zam’mah sadeh vatikachehu mip’ri chapeiha nat’ah karem
    She plans for a field, and buys it. With the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

    Chagrah v’oz motneiha vat’ametz zro’oteiha
    She girds her loins in strength, and makes her arms strong.

    Ta’amah ki tov sachrah lo yichbeh balailah nerah
    She knows that her merchandise is good. Her candle does not go out at night.

    Yadeha shilchah vakishor v’chapeiha tamchu felech
    She sets her hands to the distaff, and holds the spindle in her hands.

    Kapah parsah le’ani v’yadeiha shil’chah la’evyon
    She extends her hands to the poor, and reaches out her hand to the needy.

    Lo tira l’vetah mishaleg ki chol betah lavush shanim
    She fears not for her household because of snow, because her whole household is warmly dressed.

    Marvadim astah lah shesh v’argaman l’vushah
    She makes covers for herself, her clothing is fine linen and purple.

    Noda bash’arim ba’lah b’shivto im ziknei aretz
    Her husband is known at the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

    Sadin astah vatimkor vachagor natnah lak’na’ani
    She makes a cloak and sells it, and she delivers aprons to the merchant.

    Oz v’hadar l’vushah vatischak l’yom acharon
    Strength and honor are her clothing, she smiles at the future.

    Piha patchah v’chochma v’torat chesed al l’shonah
    She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the lesson of kindness is on her tongue.

    Tzofi’ah halichot betah v’lechem atzlut lo tochel
    She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.

    Kamu vaneha vay’ash’ruha ba’lah vay’hal’lah
    Her children rise and praise her, her husband lauds her.

    Rabot banot asu chayil v’at alit al kulanah
    Many women have done worthily, but you surpass them all.

    Sheker hachen v’hevel hayofi ishah yir’at Hashem hi tit’halal
    Charm is deceptive and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears God shall be praised.

    T’nu lah mip’ri yadeiha vihal’luha vash’arim ma’aseha
    Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates

  14. Raza Rumi says:

    Ya Haqq

  15. Irving says:

    Salaam Dear Brothers and Sisters:

    Thank you all so much for the kind comments about a heartfelt subject :) All the women in our lives deserves nothing but our deepest gratitude and love and honor. And Sister Safiyyah, bless you for the beautiful rendition of Proverbs 31, one of my favorites, in both Hebrew and English :)

    Ya Haqq!

  16. Carmen says:

    God bless your gracious noble heart!

  17. Sumera says:

    Awww sweet! :)e4

  18. Abdul. says:

    Nice post….the most important women in my life has to be my mother….she was strong and looked after me when i was really sick.

  19. wayfarer says:

    Wonderful! I hope i touch people’s lives in this way.

  20. Rabu says:

    Alhamdulillah ! what an inspiring post for me as a woman of this days! This is u who can feel & think like that.


  21. Katib says:

    Assalamualikum Br darvish

    These are genuine feelings and appreciations of women. I believe that men who acknowledge women’s attributes and their fundamental relationship to men’s, are in reality reflecting their own true humanity.

    God bless you


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: